How to Get a Girl to Fall in Love with You

There are plenty of rules and advice for getting a girl to fall in love with you. This is not about those rules and advice. This article focuses on basic concepts that can be used to strengthen a girl's feeling of love for you. It is love, after all, so allow this to be more of a fluid guideline.

Open your eyes. Women are everywhere and many women are looking to fall in love. If you want a girl out there to fall in love with you, chances are a girl wants someone out there to fall in love with her. Don't get hung up on having one particular girl fall in love with you - maybe the feelings just aren't there! Your chances of making a girl fall in love are better if you get to know more girls, and give their love a chance to blossom, than if you try to "force" love on a girl who just isn't feeling it.
For more advice on keeping your eyes peeled, see How to Find Your Soulmate.

Don't set expectations. Become like a romantic Buddha. Become desireless. Practice non-attachment. Expect nothing from the girl. This is not to say don't want the girl, it is just don't expect the girl to want you in return (which means you cannot be disappointed, only pleasantly surprised). Love thrives in the absence of pressure (in the form of neediness and clinginess).

    Read How to Stop Being Needy.
    Letting go of your expectations will also help you relax, which will make you more appealing to a girl than if you are uptight and worried.
    For an example of "romantic Buddhism", see How to Sweep a Girl off Her Feet.


Show her how lovable you are. People don't seem to systematically decide who they fall in love with. It often comes with time, and in that time you need to show the girl that you are worth being around. This is the fun part! The only way this will work, though, is if you believe, on at least some level, that you are lovable and worth being around. It's very difficult to fall in love with someone who thinks badly of themselves.

    How to Be Yourself
    How to Love Yourself
 



Give her space. This step can be looked at in many ways and can get distorted easily. It isn't about playing hard-to-get. The point is to give the girl the control of what happens next. This step isn't about ignoring her so SHE has to call you, or avoiding long conversations with her to torment her into loving you. Just allow her to live her life outside you. Allow her to see a movie without you. Allow her to be without you and she will then decide to love you on her own terms.

For some practical tips on doing this, check out How to Tame a Free Spirit.
If you're shy, you might end up giving her too much space. You still need to express your interest in her (flirt with her, touch her, and when the time is right, kiss her). Just don't smother her. Give her some time to reflect on those moments and realize how amazing they were.

 

Find out what she likes and do it with her. If she's into museums, take her to one she hasn't been to and have a tour guide take you through the history. If she likes hiking find a trail that you two can spend the day walking. If she wants to travel overseas, save up so that you two can make the trip. Or maybe she likes something more modest like going to the library to read once a week. Whatever she's into you should encourage her and do them with her. This will show her that you support her ambitions and goals and she'll appreciate your company. Even if you don't like doing it, the fact that you like her is why you should do it. It isn't always about you. Unless it's something you are totally against (like going to see every new scary movie that comes out), you should at least either offer to go with her or plan to do the things she likes with her.